It's surprising how often we order our children: "Do this!" » “Don’t do that!” » But if we want to raise resilient and independent children, is this really the right approach?
Michaeleen Doucleff argues that there is a better way. She explains why while sharing practical strategies for solving the parenting "crisis" in the modern world.
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Doucleff reveals four educational principles that will help foster resilience and independence in your children while protecting and enhancing their emotional well-being. She talks about her observations of how different cultures approach childrearing and how their practices can help alleviate the burdens we place on ourselves and our children. We also explore the role of technology and its impact on our parenting and the development and maturity of our children.
This article will challenge your modern assumptions about the best ways to educate your children.
- Children are born wanting to help. Everyone knows this in our society. So, the first thing is to really let your children help you even if they can't do it properly... Never refuse a child's request for help.
- Parental education is about transmitting values.
- Praise is a tricky beast. Praise can motivate children, but it can also demotivate them. It depends on how it is done, the context, and the child. We feel like all praise is good, but that's not the case. I tell parents they can just stop praising.
- If you could change just one thing in your child's life, it would be to give them two hours, or one hour, per week of independence.
- When you are their personal assistant and manage their schedule hour by hour, you are doing them a disservice because they are not able to learn this skill of asking themselves: What should I do next?
- One of the most stressful things is that feeling of, “What are you doing with your time with your kids?” » Children don't need to be entertained. They haven't been entertained for 200,000 years.
- You can either change the environment and remove everything, which we tend to do with children, but then you leave them disarmed, or you teach them slowly.
By following these principles, you can help your children develop important skills while allowing them to become independent and resilient individuals. For more advice on parenting, check out the resources available on Parents.fr .
